There are no prerequisites for becoming a parent. There is no background or credit check that is mandated to be taken before the pregnancy test comes back positive that would indicate the degree of parenting readiness, aptitude, or stability that we each possess. If there were, perhaps we would address our areas of potential shortcoming and could proactively seek out the help and resources we need to be the best parents we could be years in advance. Assumptions about our parenting potential can be made by people based on statistical data, and cultural norms. The data may make good predictions, but it doesn't take grace into account. We cannot predict what God's grace will produce in our lives, especially in our areas of perceived inadequacy.
2 Corinthians 12:9
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ’s power may rest on me.
If statistics and cultural norms were absolute predictors of parenting potential, my children's lives would have been sketchy. I won't go into the details today of all the reasons the world around me would've considered me at high risk for parenting failures. But I will declare that what I've learned as a parent in the last 16 years is that success in parenting is very instinctive; and prosperous parenting happens by the grace of God, with whatever resources the parent has access to and in spite of any adversities. What I've come to learn through my parenting experience is that God already had a plan for each one of my children before I entered the picture as their mother. While they are my children, their gifts and the purpose for their lives were predestined before they were planted in my womb. I am performing the role assigned to me that will bring to fruition the purpose that God has established for their lives.
“Before I shaped you in the womb, I knew all about you. Before you saw the light of day, I had holy plans for you: A prophet to the nations—that’s what I had in mind for you.”
When I learned to honor the scripture Jeremiah 1:5 as a daily mantra my parenting experience became lighter and I began to see the power of God's grace in my children's lives. I began to accept that this parenting journey is not about me. The more I give God the glory for my parenting wins the more my children prosper. The more I let go of what I perceive to be my parenting failures and my need to win and instead trust that God's grace is sufficient, the more my children prosper.
As the power of grace in parenting began to transform me, I started using the hashtag #RAISINGAMAZING in my social media posts about my children. This is my way of giving God the glory for my children's brag worthy accomplishments as well as for the victory over the trials in my life as a parent.
What I believe without a doubt is that anybody that has a child can parent prosperously by relying on God's grace. If you have a child, you have everything you need to raise your child to be the amazing human being that God plans for him or her to be. When you trust that the grace of God is sufficient for you in every circumstance it will become apparent that you are already #RAISINGAMAZING. I created this blog and the organization Raising Amazing Inc. to encourage and empower parents through the word of God and the witness of those who prosper in parenting by relying on His grace. If this resonates with you, take a moment to Like the Raising Amazing Nation page on FACEBOOK.
Love & gratitude,
Founder and curator of the Raising Amazing Nation blog. Imperfect, but clever, mother of two brilliant and beautiful daughters; doing my best to raise them to lead authentically amazing lives by God's grace. Moving humanity forward daily as a community catalyst, leadership coach, and parenting pundit.
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